Only when your head is overflowing with tension is it useful to write down your thoughts. It brings order to chaos, expresses feelings and has a therapeutic effect. Aren’t you by nature a writer? This does not matter at all.
Feeling uncomfortable can be seen as voices in your head that all require attention at the same time, and want to be heard. One voice wants you to work hard on your project, another talks about the tasks that need to be done, and a third voice says something about someone you know who is having a hard time at work and why you haven’t contacted them yet. Then there is – we must not forget – the light voice that says: I want to rest, leave me anyway.
What you probably know is how fast these thoughts are. Within minutes it floats from place to place, from place to place. By sitting down and starting to write down what’s on your mind, you’ll find that you’re gradually calming down. By writing, you give yourself the opportunity to organize ideas. Increases your ability to focus. You are more focused than if you were thinking about something on your own. Writing everything down can reveal details that are valuable to you.
The more you write, the more you give
It doesn’t matter where to start. It doesn’t have to be a good story. You write for yourself. You are talking on paper. You reduce the feeling of stress that prevents you from taking the time to sit and write. And the more you write, the more it saves you, just as with yoga or meditation. You no longer have to remember everything, think about everything, space is created in your head again. Your brain can become lazy the way it should be. You relax. You sleep better. You no longer have nightmares to process everything that happens during the day. And this good sleep has a positive effect on your physical condition and everything you do.
Writing isn’t just good for all the everyday things that happen to you. Even if you want to solve a problem or walk around with a question you won’t leave, it’s a good idea to work on that as you write. We are often filled with questions. How can I take care of everyone I love? Why did he contract a disease that doctors cannot answer? How do I find my great love? What method should I follow in my work? What is the best advice I can give my children? How do I give more meaning to my existence? Perhaps you could easily complete this class with your own questions.
They can be life’s big questions that have to do with the meaning of our existence. But also very personal situations that presented you with a huge dilemma, in which you yearn for clarity. Because that’s what we most want for many of us, understanding what’s going on and finding a solution to our problems. Read books, listen to podcasts, or try to live your mind. But in the end, there is only one person in the world who can know exactly how you feel about you, what your thoughts are and what life does for you and what it has done for you. By listening to your thoughts and being prepared to ask yourself questions, you can come up with new insights. You expand your consciousness. In this way, writing becomes a ritual exercise that you celebrate your life with.
Confidence in yourself is the foundation of all valuable things in your life. How do you handle your relationships? Find a job that suits you. Your ability to be creative and take risks. Feeling connected to what you crave and what your ideals are. By believing in yourself, you know who you are.
Linda Trichter Metcalfe, who introduced the Editing method of writing Allergic writing Advanced – can be found in the Netherlands under the name Harttaal – description Self confidence Like the intimate feeling of who you are and how your mind works. By writing in her style, you discover What does it look like to be you. So it is not about the unshakeable self-confidence that can sometimes be achieved in our society. It’s about knowing when you really feel sparkle and confident, but also when you’re scared and would rather stay in bed all day. By recognizing what is going on in yourself, you have a choice.
how do you feel?
One way to heal yourself is to write about how you feel. You’re probably thinking by now: I know how I feel, right? That’s right, we as human beings are born with the ability to feel for ourselves. Just because of what life does to us, and because of all kinds of situations we end up in, it’s hard to keep feeling that connection. By examining the thoughts and feelings you write down, your confidence increases. “If you don’t feel it, you can’t process it,” says psychologist Edith Egger, who wrote herself about surviving at Auschwitz as a young girl. Of course, the more extreme the situations, as in the case of Edith Eger, the more you need to go back to them. But it is always possible.
Create a place where you feel safe to write, so you can relax and listen to your thoughts. Use the ritual to turn inward.
what do you need:
- A candle that lights up as soon as you start writing and goes out when you stop.
- Write for a maximum of 25 minutes in a row, so that your focus is always optimal.
- Write by hand, so you can better keep track of your thoughts and force yourself to slow down.
- As you write, play music that puts you awake and calm, eg Bach’s “Six Wings of an Unaccompanied Cello” or search YouTube for music to study with.
- Stick a note on the door saying you won’t be disturbed and also turn off your phone. Every stimulus that comes from outside is distracting.
Text: Wies Enthoven
This article has been abbreviated from “Starting Over” by Happeniz.
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